Nov
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Etiquette at sea
Filed Under Cruise etiquette
Cruising is one of the most romantic and glamorous ways to vacation. And people who cruise tend to be among the most gracious, charming and interesting people you’ll ever meet.
But just like at land-based resorts, there are a handful of people on every cruise who don’t understand or just ignore the ship’s rules and traditions. In order to help educate them, I’ve put together a list of cruising etiquette “no no’s” that can be passed out to offenders. Feel free to add to the list.
Don’t reserve pool chairs: A friend of mine recently sailed on the Norwegian Gem and was surprised to find empty chaise lounges by the pool reserved with towels and items as early as 7:30 a.m. – some by people who were going on a morning shore excursion and wanted to ensure an empty chaise lounge was available for them when they returned. This kind of selfish behavior puts pool-side chaise lounges at a premium when there would otherwise be plenty to go around. So if you’re not going to use the chaise lounge in the next 30 minutes, don’t put anything on it.
Don’t take kids to the adults-only pools: While I love kids and took my first-born on a cruise when she was just six-months old, I know there are
people who appreciate the occasional escape to an adults-only area where tranquility reigns supreme. In response, a number of newer ships have introduced small pool areas just for adults where there are no pool games, loud music, etc. There’s usually plenty of room for kids in the other pools on the ship, so there’s no need for parents to bring them to the adults-only pool.
Respect the dress code: While most evenings are casual on cruise ships, there are usually one or two nights per week where passengers dress up – black tie or suit for gents, and evening wear or cocktail dress for women. Almost everyone dresses up appropriately, but some people on the early seating get changed into casual clothes after dinner, and then rejoin the evening entertainment. As a result, people in tuxedos can sometimes find themselves sitting next to someone in jeans and a tee-shirt in the show lounge. So please try not to spoil the special atmosphere of a dress up evening for others.
Jog on the jogging track: A number of ships now have special tracks for joggers in addition to the traditional promenade deck for people who just want a
leisurely stroll around the ship. It works really well because the walkers don’t get in the way of joggers, and there is no risk that someone might get knocked over. However, on our recent cruise, a number of joggers were using the promenade deck. What’s the use of having a dedicated track for joggers if they won’t use it?
Use café tables just for dining: During our trans-Atlantic cruise, a handful of people used tables in the Lido Deck cafeteria for reading, painting, and card playing during meal times. This made it more challenging for people with loaded trays of food to find a place to sit and eat. Since there are lots of free tables in other areas of the ship, please leave the ones in the cafeteria free for the use of diners.
Don’t slam cabin doors: Cruise ships usually rig cabin doors so they slam shut when someone enters or leaves a cabin. However, nothing can jolt someone out of a sound sleep more easily than a cabin door that’s swung wide open and then
left to slam shut – the sound reverberates along the entire corridor of cabins. So please be thoughtful of the people in the next cabin, and gently close your door when it’s very early in the morning or late at night. Ditto for calling to each other in the corridors during the wee hours.
While cruising has changed over the years, it is still one of the most gracious and glamorous way to travel in the world. And with a little consideration, effort and cooperation, it will continue to be so.
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Well said!!!!!!!
I would like to add a few!
~Use your indoor voice in cabin hallways, just because you are awake doesn’t mean that others might be. This goes for 11pm or 11am
~The internet cafe is not a meeting room or lounge, people are concentrating as they watch the minutes adding up to an exorbitant charge AND even though I’m Elite on Princess I’m still trying to use them wisely. Also, I don’t want to know your passwords, your health issues or how lousy you thought the show was last night..
~Don’t BOOM with your voice or laugh especially in the DINING ROOM…GRACIOUS and SOPHISTICATED should be some key words …you might be the life of the party at your dining table, but our dining table is more subdued and we would like to HEAR each other
~respect personal space…if there are 50 lounge chairs surrounding me….pick one at least 4 chairs over NOT right next to me. If BOTH of us are in a chatty mood, it will take place and then one of us can at that time move to sit next to each other.
~Games at sea are friendly competition among strangers..IT’S FUN! Dial down your competitiveness that you have on land …THAT”S why you need a vacation in the first place.
If you don’t, I promise you..I won’t pick you for my team EVER again! I would rather lose and yet have fun with my team mates that I just met!
I’m sure I will think of a few more…It’s been the last 15 years of more than 30 years of sailing that I’ve had to bite my tongue, extend a smile and then turn around a roll my eyes!
My only pet peeve is that I have occasionally seen some pompous people aboard ships treat service staff rudely. The crew aboard cruise ships are by and large terrific people who work their hearts out to make sure passengers have a good time. I hate to see them treated with nothing but the greatest of respect and appreciatiion.
Greetings Commodore,
A very interesting article. Sound advice for any new cruiser and a gentle reminder for some of the veterans. A lot of the above is obviously taken from experience I gather? Have you ever been guilty of any of the aforementioned crimes at high seas? Don’t hesitate to tell me all about it on Sunday!
See you then,
Paul
Hi Paul. My only crimes at sea have been:
1. Drinking too much
2. Eating too much
3. Telling corny jokes
4. Refusing to get off the ship after the cruise is over
Other than that, I have been a model passenger!
I can only hope that your well put words have reached out to some people who may have been guilty of these onboard-crimes in the past, through the medium of this blog! Manners cost nothing, and being polite and sparing a considerate thought for others will not stop you from having a good time! If anything, it will provide you with a hightened sense of well being!